Educate them

Coercion has never worked. It all depends on how we bring up our children and inculcate values in them



These three little souls of our community should not be embarrassed or harassed by us to the extent that they start hating us. Actually, theirs is a very little fault and I can understand how tough it would be for them, to digest such a negative publicity amongst their own people, at this tender age.  Instead of castigating and mortifying them, we should first own them and reason with
them with love and patience.*

This ‘All girl rock band’ is just one manifestation of broader issue of Bollywood-influenced upbringing, currently a trend in new generation of parents. Parenting is a vital chapter in Islam, but hardly anyone is interested in Islamic parenting in Kashmir. The growing middle-class does
every single thing to differentiate itself from the lower-class, irrespective of it being good or bad. Given the fact that these terms ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are subjective, Muslims consider Islam to be final
authority to determine meanings of these terms. The most disturbing trend, as far as I am concerned, is that many Muslims follow own desires and when proof of their deviance from Islam is shown to them, they easily call it a different and even wrong interpretation of religion and shy away from it, as they know that they can neither relinquish the habit nor can they take such a big step to leave Islam. Now this disease of ‘different interpretation’, has crept into the fundamentals of Islam after traversing through ‘Muamlaat’.
This issue is not just about music, which I comprehend, few Islamic sects do not consider haram. The issue being debated is about ‘Pragaash band’ where our three teenaged sisters, wearing tight outfits, heads uncovered, singing lyrics, on top of their voices, in front of hundreds of non-mehram men. So this issue, vividly, has more than music in it, to be debated, which Indian news channels have completely ignored. There are undisputed and unequivocal Islamic prohibitions for the aforementioned acts, even if we consider music to be somewhat questionable. There are at least four more dimensions of this band issue, other than Music, which places it at loggerheads with Islam.
I have reservations with Mufti Bashiruddin’s Fatwa, as well, as he emphasized more on singing in
general, which is not haram. To be specific, we should refer to Ibn Majah, Volume 5, Hadith no 4020, where Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) says ‘Some people of my Ummah will drink wine, calling it by other than its real name, merriment will be made for them through the playing of musical instruments, and the singing of lady singers, Allah will cleave the earth under them’’.
So, singing for the merriment of strange men is prohibited while singing in general is not. Same goes for music where Tambourine is an exception.
These values are to be inculcated in our children so that they feel Islam rather than carrying it as a burden on their heads or over their bodies in the form of head scarves and hijabs. Better educate our children so that they learn by themselves. Coercion will not do.

(Mehboob Makhdoomi is an MBA from USA, with a research degree from Britain and is a member of American Marketing Association)

Lastupdate on : Thu, 7 Feb 2013 21:30:00 Makkah time
Lastupdate on : Thu, 7 Feb 2013 18:30:00 GMT
Lastupdate on : Fri, 8 Feb 2013 00:00:00 IST

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