Women At The wheel

On 7th July 19, it was another sizzler. I was waiting for my parcel at the Karan Nagar. Like many others, there was also this girl eating Biryani and absorbed in some serious discussion with an old gentleman in her brand new Santro. They were taken by aback when an auto rickshaw driver was negotiating the left turn and had a rear end collision with the vehicle. On hearing the bang, she came out quickly and became furious to see the dent and other damages caused by him. She couldn’t stop the tears of disappointment but was courageous enough to deal with him seriously. Her sick father was too weak to respond this nonsense. The miscreant couldn’t defend his irrelevant logic. Meanwhile two more drivers joined and tried to suppress the lady by their big mouths. I intervened to reason out the mistake. I took the bull by the horns and at the end, he agreed to pay for the repairs. Had I not remained by her side, the driver could have escaped easily .The women drivers are facing daily driving troubles, the reason being others cannot bear to see that they are daring to drive and as such leave no stone unturned to create all sorts of hurdles on their way.

It is a routine for the young bikers to perform wheelie and other  dangerous stunts if the women drivers try to ignore and bypass them. They are being restricted to the same lane and couldn’t move ahead. Sometimes these stunners, out of sheer frustration, would chase them upto the work places. They trouble them without any fear and can even put the drivers life at the high risk.

Ask any women driver who has to drive in the Budgam district, where tipper drivers are moving at high speeds and show more arrogance and carelessness if they see any women driving on the route. There had been number of serious mishaps but the administration is still in deep slumber without initiating any safety measures and keeping them under the proper surveillance.

On account of any urgency, if the woman has to drive in the evening, they are being put at an unease due to the high beam driving from the opposite side and a risky situation is created, as the instant flashes causes the vision blurredness and one cannot locate the objects properly.

Driving in the interiors of the city is not an easy task during the office hours. Few people are not so well mannered to show any courtesy to the female drivers, as sometimes it is very difficult to drive so safely in those narrow lanes and if any mistake happens , they will not come forward to help but will simply laugh at, instead of boosting the confidence of the nervous ladies.

Tailgating is being done to make them nervous and put them in a risk to control the vehicle in time and in a haste don’t know which side to move and can result in serious accidents. Sometimes anyone of us can face awkward situations like flat tyres and car break downs but there will be very few people who will stop and help the female drivers as a moral responsibility.

The public transport drivers feel a strange sense of defeat, if the female drivers try to accelerate ahead of them. They would murmur strangely and sometimes pass indecent remarks. Load carrier (Jonga) hit and run accidents are very common and the female driver’s couldn’t figure out what has actually happened, till they gather the senses to see the heavy dents and don’t know how to handle the situation, as no one comes forward to stop them and question their disgusting behavior .

Whatever I have written above, doesn’t mean and should discourage them to give up, Infact, let me give you few valid reasons ” why women should drive and deserve our appreciations”.

Molestation and groping in buses has become a routine affair and co passengers hardly stand up to speak  against the animal behavior. I was not surprised to see few men also travelling in pink busses and no one can dare to kick them down. Our society is not new to stalking. People frequently stop their vehicles to offer lifts to the unknown women and trouble them unnecessarily but its really pleasant to see bold young girls driving scooties to attend the tuitions, be independent and manage their tight schedules and keep the eve teasers at bay.It has given them wings to fly! In case of emergencies the female drivers can be handy to manage the critical situation and take the patient to the hospital. Not just that, they can also manage the family outings on their own.

The public transport doesn’t ply too early and owing to morning timings, women teachers cannot risk their jobs. Even the female medicos are duty bound to respect their time lines. Its also not feasible for the female travellers to carry their infants and children in over the crowded buses. Public transport is not the surest and convenient mode to be on time. It takes a lot of efforts and energy to reach the destination. Frequent hartals and high auto fairs have left them with no choice but to avail their own transport.

The female drivers are better than men because they don’t get involved in the road rage and always drive cautiously. And One is fully assured that he is in safer hands.

Managing personal and professional life is an uphill task. More than a luxury, it’s the necessity for the women folk to drive and makes them feel strong, safe and empowered. Let’s facilitate and respect their efforts, augment their freedom, motivate them to be in the driving seat without any fear and appreciate their daring!